Before we get into the next post we want to thank you all for your questions. Please keep sending them. They really help us to develop programs that are meaningful.
GIFT: Everyone who has sent questions will receive an invitation our upcoming seminar “Re-programing the Mind to Stop Procrastination“. For those of you new to teleseminars, this is an online event that you can listen to by phone or on your computer. It will be given January 2010. Details will be emailed to you shortly.
Attendees will have the opportunity to interact “live” with Dr Audrey Sussman.
There are two ways to be invited:
1. Sign up by going to the upper right side of this page, put you name and email and click on the “sign in here” tab. You’ll also receive a powerful yet easy to learn exercise for calming your mind.
2. Send a question to Audrey, the link blue link, takes you to her email address. Just write down your question and your name and email, and send it off. We’ll look forward to interacting with you “in person”.
Recap of the actions steps:
In the 1st action step you began to look at the thoughts moving through your mind.
In the 2nd action step you began to look “underneath” for patterns. Many times these patterns were programmed in childhood as coping skills: They are the programs you continue to use in the desire to get relief when turmoil rages within you.
In the 3rd Action Step we began to look at the reasons we avoid, and wrote down the reasons you came up with.
If you look at the things you do, instead of the task at hand, I believe you will notice that some of the things you procrastinate with feel safe. Others give us a more comfortable feeling, as we moving away from the task. And some are used to make us feel more in control.
When we choose to do the things we are good at, even though it doesn’t move us forward on the task we are procrastinating about it does put us back into our area of comfort. And when we are in our area of comfort, we succeed and feel good, which adds to our feelings of security and accomplishment.
One of the skills of moving past procrastination is to harness these “good feelings” so we can access them when needed. And then we can “borrow” them to use in an area we are less comfortable about. There are a number of ways to do this, one is called anchoring, where we set in a trigger in the unconscious mind that automatically pulls us the positive feelings. And another favorite technique I like to use I’ll continue talking about tomorrow.
We are still accepting questions for our upcoming teleseminar
on Re-programing the Mind to Stop Procrastination
We will continue posting some ideas in the upcoming weeks.
To send your question just click on the word question it will
take you to Dr. Audrey’s email.
Or just send your name and question to askdraudrey@gmail.com