Creating positive self-talk

In this post I’ve combined a number of email’s  from my online coaching students.  They have been learning and enjoying the benefits of using the mind in a positive, enhancing way, as the excerpts below will show.  For me as their teacher and mentor it brings me so much joy as I watch them move from feelings of anxiety, self blame and depression to blossoming as they find their wonderful inner capabilities. Over the past weeks as we work together there are so many other benefits as my students are learning to find there inner voice and are learning to accept the positive things in themselves.

Instead of repeating many of the similar positive statement I’m posting a collage of some of the emails that I feel will be of interest.  I looking forward to hearing from all my readers and student with your comments, questions, concerns or just a hello to let me know you are out there.

Student email collage excerpt:

Hi Audrey.
I know why now I wasn’t giving myself credit.  When someone criticizes constantly they fail to see the good in things.

As you know I’ve been working on releasing old negative messages and replacing them with positive, enhancing statement.  Over the weeks that I’ve been coming to your coaching sessions, I’ve found that I have been able to let go of old criticisms.  Especially those from my “friend” who used to constantly criticize me.  If almost seems as if this new positive “habit” is working without any effort.  My subconscious helped me to take my ex-friend that constantly criticized me out of my head about a month ago.

I now am using your words about “giving myself credit” even if it seems like a small “win”.  This came into play a few days ago.

Okay, so  I realize that I’ve made many mistakes and still make mistakes.  But, the great thing is that now I can also admit that I’ve done good deeds, selflessly. I know it is amazing that I had such a hard time allowing myself to see my positives.  I’m now beginning to recognize that my accomplishments also deserve credit, no matter how small they are.  And the most positive thing is that as I give myself credit my depression is lifting, and I feel more courage to do things.

The other tip that I am putting into place in my life if what I took that from what  you said when you told us “if worrying solves the problem then worry, but if you done all you can, then worry serves no further purpose”. Thanks Audrey, for your wise insights.

All the techniques, skills, and your insights are like seeds planted in our minds…  when we add water to the seeds they are able to grow and florish. (I’m paraphrasing)

I’m beginning to understand how to balance the parts I like and don’t like.  It makes me feel more self worthy. For example. I recognize that I have not been able to give financial support to my family or friends.  I havn’t been able to visit with them because of my agoraphobia, but, I now can give myself credit as I recognize the “good” I have done.   I have given them my time over the phone, offering guidance, and reaching out for them where it mattered the most, emotionally and spiritually.  Yes, I now say to myself  even though I wasn’t there physically, I was there emotionally and spiritually.

You better believe I’m giving myself credit now. Once I started to recognize the good, I remembered that I also there was a time when I was there physically…there was a time in my life that I did travel by myself and helped others in person. Thank you for getting me back on the positive track.